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Gay Men and Their Not-So-Cute Misogyny Problem

Sign in. Follow publication. I know that I am not the only gay man who thinks this. It is just one of the grueling side effects of being gay, and it is something straight people will never understand. With that being said, there gay men misogynistic always been a deep, personal connection that women almost always seem to share with us.

A certain empathy of one person being able to connect to another, in a mutual expression of respect and care. The way they look at us and can relate to the feeling of not belonging, or being made to feel as though they are the lesser than the men around them. Women, straight or not, have played such a vital role in the lives of gay men both personally and politically.

Yet this camaraderie is all too often taken advantage of by gay men, who take this kindness, but offer nothing in return. As a young person I am constantly discovering new aspects of the world, and gradually becoming more socially aware as the world moves with me. I have been openly gay for just over five years and still have a lot to learn about what that part of my identity means to me.

During such a formative time for my brain I can confidently say: this fucked me up quite a bit. I saw the way gay men on TV would speak, especially the way they spoke to women. Characters like the fun hairdresser or the perky assistant would gleefully say say these things toward women.

As if their higher pitched tone made it ok. Girls my age, going through the same brain development, were also gay men misogynistic exposed to these ideas, and began to believe this was the way women and gay men spoke to each other. My girl friends wanted me to be their sassy gay friend and I wanted to be accepted, so I obliged.

At parties girls would want me to say something sassy. No context, just sassy. So I would. I would absolutely tear these girls apart verbally, but because I liked dudes and my voice had a bit of flare, it was ok. But then something happened. Rapper Azealia Banks has made quite a name for herself, through her impressive ability to put her foot in her mouth.

To call her outspoken would be an understatement. It was in latehowever, that one of her feuds took on a meaning far beyond the limitations of a quick character message exchange. In a public spat with the openly gay internet-blogger Perez Hilton, Banks referred to Hilton using the homophobic slur, faggot.

This hateful word has caused myself and many others so much harm. There is absolutely no excuse for it. But afterwards, Banks brought up an interesting point surrounding her logic for using it. I paused. Even though she had no idea who I was or whether I was listening, it felt like she had looked in my eye and directed the question right at me.