How do you know that a gay man likes you

I've considered it for long hours, and decided that I was gay. This was when I was about I still fought with it for a while, but just recently I finally talked to myself and decided not to fight it anymore. Finally, when I get the mindset and confidence to say I'm fully gay, I meet this beautiful, sweet, hilarious, and honestly perfect girl who I connect with wicked well.

I asked her out recently and she basically said not yet. I didn't go out and search thinking, "I want to be straight now please! We've been friends for about a year now, and she recently moved onto campus. We've hung out non-stop, and she isn't even weirded out that I asked her out, she even said she'd thought about it, as in she thought about dating me.

I'm just not sure if I should go for it or not. She did say not yet, in more words, but should I really try to become straight again? She really is the perfect girl, and I really want to, but will the fact that I'm with a girl cause any psychological stuff, like depression or like anything bad?

I'd really like to just go date her, but a little voice in my head always whispers, "You're gay. You like men. You watch gay pR0n. You won't make her happy. Identity can be such an obnoxious creature sometimes. Often used alongside lesbian. Cyberflashing is the digital version of this, like sending unwanted sexual images to someone on their phone.

Identity is personal, something only you can work out. So, give yourself some space to read and explore how you feel this girl fits into your identity. Eleven-year-old you chose an identity based on the information you had at the time. Your friend is providing the you of now with some new data to add to the equation.

There is no right answer here. People who identify as queer may be bisexual or pansexual, gay or lesbian, questioning, asexual or more. A bi man can marry another man and that does not invalidate his bisexuality. You can decide that you want to date girls and that does not invalidate the time where you identified as gay.

What a relief. One other factor that might help you sort out how your feelings fit with your identity is: are you attracted to your friend? It sounds like you are from your description of her. Do you feel like you want to do sexy things with her?

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Does thinking about her arouse feelings similar to those you have when you watch porn or see a guy you think is hot? On to whether or not dating this friend will cause any psychological issues. But also think about what that means in terms of dating her.