What does top and botom mean in gay world

Top or Bottom? May 9, PM Subscribe A question for any male gay mefi members -- or those in the know.

Top/Bottom

It's my understanding that a good percentage of gay men are either exclusively "tops" or "bottoms". My question is this: how can you tell? Are the stereotypical gay mannerisms in fact just a subtle form of communicating this preference? Do you come straight out and ask?

Or do you wait until the moment is upon you and hope for the best? Just one of those things I've always wondered about, like how do blind people know what floor to get off in the elevator. Best answer: How can you tell the hetero guys who like their ladies to ream them with small vegetables?

Is it the way they dress? Their facial hair? Really, there's no system for you to tell. Mannerisms, machismo vs. It's a sexual preference. Many men are versatile, and some are oral-only. I don't think you'll be able to sniff them out by their taste in shoes, pitch of voice, etc.

I have known a couple comprised of two bottoms and it did present a problem mostly just a lot of drama and neurosis. But no, few of the gay men I've known wear their preferences on their name tags at parties. Best answer These vary from region to region, and they're usually something basic involving clothing or perhaps hair, but not a "mannerism" per se.

Best answer: call me. Best answer: This strikes me as totally preposterous. There are supposed to be various signals, including hankerchiefs hung out of your back pocket in a particular way, but it strikes me that with homosexuality so widely accepted in society the need for such furtive symbols must be receding.

Yes there are all sorts of "clone" images that people can pick for themselves - stereotypically of course the biker look - but why should they exclusively favour one sexual practice any more than straight people do? Your message almost implies that gay men are no more than the sum of their sexual preferences.

Maybe having relationships, socialising, having fights, going to the supermarket are also important factors in their lives - not just whether they give or receive anal sex. Best answer: what scarabic said. Response by poster: Your message almost implies that gay men are no more than the sum of their sexual preferences.

No, my message was an honest attempt to try and understand someone that is different that myself, a different perspective if you will, and your response is just the sort of unhelpful shit that makes me regret asking. Thanks for being a dick. Notice the word stereotype?

These stereotypes exist, whether you like them or not.